Thursday, February 22, 2018

Michael Apted Sexual Assault: My Story





Below is my original story of how I was sexually assaulted by Michael Apted.  I was told it would be attached to The Wrap article but it was omitted.  I feel my story disappeared and The Wrap story emerged, driven by the defense of the perpetrator.  I’ve come to understand that media outlets get bullied and threatened by the Marty Singers’ long before they take it to publication.  Thus, I feel my story was hijacked or, perhaps more accurately, sidelined, and became the story of why they won’t publish this story.  And so, here it is:

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To Michael Apted                   

After years in this business and having lived my share of sexual harassment I struggled with the idea of coming forward until I read Michael Apted’s interview with Variety addressing the subject.

The risk of speaking out, of being judged, evaluated and maligned is not something I would ever invite. But the dishonesty of remaining silent outweighs whatever consequences might befall me.

Going forward, I will address Mr. Apted directly.

In the Variety interview, November 18, 2017, where you were asked about the current state of affairs regarding the sexual harassment “scandal.” 

The suggestions and opinions you offered as to why and how to deal with sexual harassment seemed woefully deficient.

-- It seems to be hysterical at the moment and it seems to be flooding at you all the time. Clearly, there were serious goings-on, and there was some bad behavior. But I think it will settle down.

-- once we are through the first blood of it — you know, everybody is hysterical about it now and rightly so – there has to be a pattern of behavior that is civilized and proper and not ridiculous. --
 
The way I read this, you were suggesting women are being "hysterical," in a movement that needs to “settle down,” that this “flood” will pass.  Yes, there had been some “bad behavior,” even “ridiculous,” but once the dust settles, men will become civilized and proper in the conduct.

I found this profoundly disturbing. Mainly because it suggests that this is simply a phase that will pass.

Rather than a suitable remedy, it seemed like you were offering familiar rhetoric, suggesting basic standards on how men ought to behave but having no expectation they ever will.

My hope is this movement won’t settle down, but rather continue to gain momentum, to create a real pushback to sexual harassment that will have a lasting impact.

Further, this is not the “first blood of it” whatever you had meant by that-- sexual misconduct in Hollywood has been raging since the dawn of cinema.  It’s just the first time women are speaking out and men are facing actual consequences.

You are a three-term President of the DGA, a governor of the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences [the Oscars], one of the most prolific directors of your generation, and an admirable advocate for female-driven films (Coal Miner’s Daughter, Gorillas in the Mist, Blink, Enough, Nell.)

The powerful positions that you occupy endow you with the ability to nudge the industry forward by implementing policies that can make a huge difference in changing the present culture of misogyny and eradicating predators.

While reading your interview, I was jolted back to the time when you indeed sexually assaulted me in Paris.

So, setting aside my ambivalence and trepidation, I will share our story.

We first met in 1985 at a birthday party for the journalist Ann Louise Bardach in Beverly Hills. I was in my mid-twenties. You somehow got my phone number and asked me out to lunch.  I thought this was business related since you knew I was the lead acquisition executive for several European production companies (Gaumont, Tobis, and Retitalia) at that time; and my job was to find American-based film projects to develop, produce and finance.

I had been meeting with a lot of filmmakers and had a list of those I thought would be ideal.  You were on that list.  I was a huge fan of your 7-Up documentaries, not to mention Coal Miner’s Daughter.  Better still, your being British was an extra boon because my European colleagues, who also held you in high regard, thought you might be receptive to directing features for them.  You were considered a big “get” by my employers.

Our first lunch was pleasant enough and you were kind and funny; we talked a lot about ourselves but very little about my work-related intentions.  I figured this was okay for preliminary get-to-know-you lunch.  I remember the restaurant, an elegant, trendy lunch spot upstairs from an art gallery on La Brea Boulevard.  There were possibly five tables, and one was always reserved for you.  I think the place was called 170; very chic, and I remember feeling mortified by my absence of style. What I lacked in expensive clothing, I tried to make up with humor and intelligence.

A week or so later, you called for another lunch, same place, this time I tried to fashion a better look. You suggested picking me up because you were near my apartment. I agreed.

However, during the meal, I could tell you had a romantic interest in me and I started to feel uneasy and the lunch began to feel like a date.  I remained friendly and just wanted the lunch to end on a good note.  I wanted to be careful not to hurt your feelings for fear you would cut off any contact with me.  Again, I was hoping to develop films with you for my employers.  That was my job.

The drive home was palpably uncomfortable.  I remember literally sitting on my hands, with muscles tensed up.  I knew what was coming.  You stopped the car in front of my apartment and lurched at me and despite my resisting; you managed to maneuver your tongue into my mouth.

I shoved you off and explained I had no romantic interest in you - and then quickly and amazingly apologized for doing so.  I apologized for not letting you force-kiss me!  I felt guilty for not being the available, flirty girl you wanted me to be and for possibly hurting your feelings.

Further, I felt the need to apologize because of your stature in the community. You were older, wiser, and I was still learning how to navigate Hollywood.  But most importantly I didn’t want you to be angry with me.

You assured me things were fine and to not to worry about our friendship or any work-related business.  By then, it seemed perfectly clear this would not be a romance and that you had understood that, yet wanted to remain friends. I even said something like, “You’ll be like an uncle.”

But I guess in your mind I just needed more prodding. This is what you told me a few months later when we both happened to be in Paris at the same time.

Not only that, we were both staying at the same place, the Hotel Raphael.

I was there because I had business meetings with Gaumont to discuss various American screenwriters and directors we wanted to work with. My colleague at Gaumont was Pierre-Ange LePogam and we were developing strategies to secure high-end talent based in the U.S.

You were in Paris having something to do with shooting rehearsal footage of The Rolling Stones (*) for a documentary you were making or intended to make.

I remember this was September of 1985(**) because I had wandered into a theater and watched tres Hommes et un couffin, a film I thought was ideal for an American remake.  I contacted the producer Jean-Francois Lepetit and we met the next morning to hammer out rudimentary ideas that would lead this to Disney.  I remember making a joke about a title change, Three Men and a Cradle? That would never work.

Later that day, I bumped into you in the hotel lobby. I was relieved to see you.  Being on my own in a foreign city, there was a comfort in knowing someone I considered a friend was nearby.  Two professionals with business in Paris.

That afternoon or maybe the next you invited me to accompany you to a theater while you shot footage.  It sounded fun, I went along and it was a fun.  I also felt you fully understood our relationship was platonic.  You were a perfect gentleman and treated me like a peer, a colleague, without any hint of flirtation or romance.

When we got back to the hotel, you suggested I come to your room and look at some stills of the band.  The feeling between us was pleasantly cordial and again, professional. Not at any time did I feel threatened or scared of you. We were both sober, it was still rather early in the evening and I was young and naïve enough to simply believe you wanted my opinion on the Stones (***) photographs.

Writing this now, it seems entirely crazy, my agreeing to go to your hotel room to look at pictures!  But the truth is I felt completely safe and thought nothing of it.

You were my friend, Michael, my older, avuncular friend, a man I planned to do business with.

Once inside your room, you offered me a Perrier. We sat on the sofa and started to look through a book of photographs.  Then you moved closer to me and tried to kiss me.  I was so deflated.  Really?  Again?  I resisted but you kept at it, finally pinning me against the sofa.

I kept telling you no, pleading for you to get off of me.  I squirmed away, stood up to leave and before I was done collecting my handbag you had stripped off all your clothes, your 6-feet 2-inch (****) naked body standing between the door and me.  I was horrified.

You kept saying over and over that I was the kind of girl that needed prodding, how I really wanted to have sex with you but had been conditioned by the Catholic Church to resist sex.  You said, “I know you good girls.  Deep inside you want this and just need to be taken.”

With that you grabbed me and threw me on the bed face down slamming your naked body against mine, running your hands up my thighs and under my skirt.  I kept resisting, and you insisted I relax.  Holding me against my will, your voice grew louder, angrier, your grip more forceful; your breathing heavier and hot on the side of my face.  I was paralyzed with fear.  I didn’t know what to do.

It occurred to me to just let it happen.  Get it over with. All I could think was, my friend, Michael Apted is about to sexually assault me.  I was holding back tears as you flattened against me, your full weight pressing on me. As I struggled under your weight, you flipped me over.

Out of some sheer survival instinct, I kneed you near the groin area hard enough to where your body shifted off mine, giving me the room to jump and run. 

Even as I flew out the door, you chased me into the hall, naked, calling after me, “Stop resisting! Stop resisting!”

When I got to my room, I bolted it locked, then sobbed.  I felt ill and sad and lost. What had I done for you to think this was okay? I did nothing to suggest I had any sexual interest in you. I really thought we were past that.

Then I blamed myself.  First, what kind of idiot was I to think you were my safe buddy? Then, I thought, maybe you were right; perhaps I was too uptight- maybe I was a prude.  Why couldn’t I be an insouciant girl that just goes with the flow?  Or did you do this because I was simply a “nobody?” Maybe I mattered not at all.

I was heartbroken and confused.

Never once did it occur to me to report this incident to the police. First, I was alone in Paris, and could barely speak the language.  Second, I was in your hotel room and had been out with you that day. I certainly didn’t want a scandal to come out of my first transcontinental business trip.

Further, I didn’t want to lose whatever potential work relationship might remain between us. That was still my priority. Looking back, I wish the grown-up me could have helped that girl.

Eventually, I found that place inside me where I could bury this, forget it, set my feelings aside and pretend it never happened.  I would only tell my closest girlfriends. I thought that would be all the “therapy” I would need.

Back in Los Angeles, I truly believed that if I told anyone of authority I would lose my job.  I would be seen as a problem, as ineffective, possibly incompetent.  I had to toughen up.  I needed this job and still had a lot of plans, goals, and dreams.  I was just starting my career. I told myself that this is Hollywood; let it go. And I did. 

But it doesn’t really work that way. The internalized shame haunts you like an unwanted ghost, visiting at the most unexpected times. It never goes away. It still haunts me- decades later.  And herein lies the inequity of it all, how this one incident exemplified the obvious but normalized imbalance of power.

You apparently thought nothing of it because a few months later back in L.A. (*****) you invited me to watch Maurice Jarre’s score a film you were completing, Gorillas in the Mist.  

I remember reminding you on the phone I had no interest in anything romantic.  I also told you I had a boyfriend for extra measure. “Oh! Well, that it explains everything.  You should’ve just told me that a long time ago.”  Really?  That’s all I needed to do?  I wish I had known. Was this a secret man “code?” Or were you just joking? I honestly still do not know.

But I do know you never apologized for your reprehensible behavior back in Paris. Ever.  And I didn’t have enough self-value to approach the subject.

Although hesitant, to keep a potential work relationship alive, I agreed to go see Maurice Jarre.  There would be many people in the studio.  The afternoon turned out well.  I did enjoy watching the orchestra, and you were charming and friendly.

Nonetheless, as you towered over me behind the glass wall while viewing the orchestra, you started sending sexual signals by brushing up a little too close, and then actually touching me…eventually resting your hand on my lower back. 

Finally, I understood we could never have any kind of relationship.  I was simply your sexual target.  I felt demoralized, again, and then flashed back to Paris.  Then I felt sick.  And I feel sick writing this – an ongoing corrosion of the soul.  My spirit had been scarred, my integrity sullied and my person violated.

Now that working together was off the table, I had no way of explaining this to my companies.  This awful pressure of wanting to deliver something of great substance for my job combined with my having to essentially sell myself out was an impossible puzzle to solve.  Even after the incident in Paris I briefly weighed the prospect of sleeping with you just to further our business relationship and possibly make a film together.  This very thought compounded the shame. That is not who I am. Even knowing this, the shame persists.

I thanked you and left.  I didn’t want to chance a hug, a handshake or any physical contact. I so wish I could go back in time and decline your offer of seeing the concert, and then going to your hotel room. I had no idea the effect this would have on me, would still have on me.  Most likely, you didn’t either. It probably never occurred to you that your behavior would have a lasting, harmful effect on me.

Over the years I would see you at various film festivals and social events.  You were always kind but there was this unspoken discomfort between us.  Usually, I tried to avoid you.  We seemed to run into each other less and less.  I stopped watching your films unless I had to for business reasons.

As my career evolved, my duties became larger.  I ran the L.A. office for some of the largest film entities in Europe, (Pathe, Canal Plus, Telepool, RTD) developing, packaging, and buying American films.  One of my employers acquired one of your films, Nell, (another strong, female character.)  I remember at the screening of Nell I caught sight of you and thought; I bet he didn’t try to sexually assault Jodie Foster.

A few years later while channel flipping at home, I came across your film Enough; a film about a physically abused woman (Jennifer Lopez) who is unable to find safety or justice from the police, so she takes matters into her own hands and kills her abuser; a very satisfying film.  And I wondered how was it you chose that project; a female revenge story.

Michael, it’s important for you to know that this is not about retribution.  Because of the many courageous women sharing their stories people are listening. Finally.

Along with the onslaught of constant sexual harassment accounts, those of us who were assaulted become triggered to such a degree, it’s as though the event occurred last week.

There is an emotional whiplash that takes place: guilt, shame, fear, self-blame, and helplessness-the internalized trauma reinforced again and again.

This is the first opportunity I felt supported enough to speak my truth.

I also struggled with how this would affect you, your family, and your legacy.

But at what point do I stand up for myself? Honor myself?

Then, there are my daughters to consider.  I certainly do not want any possible exposure this would bring, but at the same time, I don’t want them going into a world where they are conditioned to accept that women are inferior to men; that their voices won’t matter under any circumstances. 

You have a genuine opportunity to be part of the solution. It starts with owning what you did to me - and anyone else who shares my misfortune.  It starts there.

My story, like countless others, illustrates the extreme pressure women are put under when dealing with men in powerful positions: this constant sexual undercurrent thwarting one’s efforts to create something that mattered, to forge a career.

After this incident, I approached many business opportunities with a sense of dread.

After years of battling misogyny, one’s confidence and sense of self-worth slowly erode until trying to achieve anything at all seems pointless. 

My intention is not to harm your reputation but rather to suggest using your position to keep moving the narrative forward for women. Please help end the tremendous imbalance of power as well as the general disrespect for women that exists in our industry.

If by my speaking out helps achieve this end, if only in small part, then perhaps there will be a sense of resolution for myself as well. Finally.


Rhonda Talbot




(*) Per your lawyer Marty Singer, it turns out that you were shooting a Sting documentary. The Stones were also in Paris, and possibly in the studio at the time. Here is my truth. At the time, I was nonplussed about either band, so my recollection of whom you were shooting is irrelevant.

(**) I realize now this happened end May 1985 because I went to Paris directly after Cannes Film Festival that year.

(***) Possibly Sting photographs.

(****) Apparently you are not 6'2", but given you were towering over me, it’s easy to imagine overestimating your height.

(*****) I’m shocked to realize this was three years later and not a few months because when you put your hand on my back, time was compressed and I was taken right back to that moment when I ran out of that room in Paris.
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Saturday, February 3, 2018

My Downward Insulin Spiral to Near Death!




Not too long ago, I had a BBQ gathering, stuffing my face, making jokes, while getting into the spirit of the upcoming outdoor Karaoke contest. Then seemingly out of nowhere, a lovely fellow whom I had never met must have overheard me say, "Ugh, I feel so bloated," as I chomped into another burger.



Here is what I heard:

"Well, that's because you're on a downward insulin spiral! You're about to become a major diabetic. Chances are you'll have to have your gallbladder removed! Then develop liver cancer! Say hello to the Grim Reaper. He's standing beside you!"

This lovely man, Cesario Tio, probably did not say anything like that, but that's what I heard. First, why is this stranger talking about my gallbladder? Also, do I really need a gallbladder?

To save you trouble, readers, yes you need it.  You want to keep this thing happy. If you care, you can see more here -- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gallbladder

Nonetheless, who was he to tell me anything about my life? He was about to get an earful.


Most likely he said, 'Maybe you feel bloated because of all the refined sugars you consume.'

I looked at Cesario, who is incredibly fit, runs marathons, and is devoted to clean eating/living otherwise known as Paleo. In addition, he's very kind, helpful, incredibly educated on all matters of food and he's entrepreneurial. He just wants people to understand what they eat is actually very important. More on Cesario here
But I knew nothing of this person so I thought he was judging me, and insulting me and I was furious. 
"Well, Mr. Paleo guy, I happen to eat very wisely. This little BBQ is a one-off. So I had a burger. And pie. And cookies. But I don't drink, I exercise and I eat healthily."
"What do you eat for breakfast?"
Who was this guy? Now my girlfriends are leaning in, seeing how I'll handle this nutrition-freak interloper.
"I'll have you know I eat a trough of plain yogurt, covered with oatmeal, sunflower butter and a pile of fresh fruit. And some almonds. And coffee." 

I was waiting to be congratulated on my excellent food choices but:
"Then what do you do? For activity after breakfast?"
"Activity after breakfast? All the action happened before breakfast, kids, carpool, possibly stopping for gas. After I eat, I write. For hours." 
Technically that's true, but often there is more sitting and staring than actual writing. Still, how was this Cesario's business?!
"So after consuming over 150 grams of sugar and probably 2000 calories, you sit down for hours?"
A trick question, this menace of a man.
I went into some red rage and stalked off into my kitchen. One of my gal pals, Sydney, followed.
Me: "What the actual fuck? Who invited that guy? Fuck Paleo!"
Sydney: "He has some serious issues. Why is he attacking your breakfast? It sounds great by the way and super healthy."
Me: "Right? And I didn't even mention that I drink five glasses of whole milk a day. Not to mention bread. Loads of bread. Am I getting a gut?"
I was pulling on my excess stomach material.
Sydney: "Oh for god's sake, no. That's just baby fat leftover from the twins."
Me: "They're 14. I can't keep using that excuse."

We dissected this poor guy, conjuring up some imaginary life he had with other Paleoites as they ate root vegetables then ran uphill for 500 miles. Pathetic!


Sydney and I went back and forth, putting down the entire Paleo concept, community and decided Cesario was simply stuck in a cult.

The night ended up being really fun, lots of bad singing, dancing, and more pie.

The next morning I was still angry. Out of sheer spite, I made a "green" protein shake, something I found off a Paleo website. I have to say it was delicious. Then for lunch, no bread, just chicken. For dinner, fish, yams, and spinach.

I did this day after day until I forgot why. Suddenly I was off of dairy, white bread, most bread actually, and sugar, save a few gummy bears. And I felt amazing. My pants started to fall off, my stomach shrank, everything shrank. I had more energy than I had had in years. 
Like this but not me: And I don't have an earring in my belly.



I learned a lot about myself that night. 1) I'm can be overly sensitive to anything. 2) I can create entire scenarios about people to suit my own perceptions of who I need them to be. 3) I can be a dismissive bitch. 
Okay, so none of this is new. I've been working on improving myself since birth. It's a slow process.
But like so much in life, we only see what we want to see, and that's not a great thing. At least for me. Deep down, I knew my food plan was lacking, but I just didn't want to hear it. So thank you, Cesario, for having the 'gall' to call me out. It changed my life. This one small BBQ inspired me to learn about food, find new ways to consume food and live a healthier life. Because I'm now practicing better eating habits, so are my kids. It's a win for everyone. 

An interesting anecdote -- In the Chinese language, gallbladder 膽 -- is associated with courage, boldness, bravery, heroism and apparently is where you make your best decisions. Where you chart your life's actual path! Who knew?
Still on course to that big white beach house that awaits me.

Rhonda Talbot weighing in on health, diet, Paleo, BBQ, random men, inspiration, gallbladders, beach houses and the kitchen sink.

Monday, October 30, 2017

It's Raining Daddies in New York or STOP With the Middle-age Male Fantasy Films!





I can't believe I am addressing this again. Films where predatory, old, white saggy ass men lust after teenage girls. I was so outraged a couple years ago regarding the film The Last of Robin Hood, which focused on Errol Flynn's (50) sexual relationship with Beverly Aadland (15), I had to make some noise. Here is the post under GROSS.  They tried to gloss this ridiculous movie over by suggesting that that was how things were back then. WELL, here we are in 2017. So much for that rational.

And in bizarre coincidence one of the two films, Woody Allen's A Rainy Day in New York casts the lovely Elle Fanning as the supposed 15-year old girl. Her sister Dakota Fanning, played the 15-year old Beverly Aadland. I have no idea what this means, but I love the Fanning sisters and all of their 248 movies.




But, NO, just NO. You don't have to play these roles. Walk away. Run! Everyone in Hollywood wants to cast the Fanning sisters. So why say yes to this trash?



I'm not interested in bringing up the entire Allen history, because this entry is not about that.

It's about how is it possible there is not one but TWO of these films soon to be released?

The other one is Louis CK's I Love You Daddy. His 17-year old daughter (Chloe Grace Moretz) is stalked essentially by a 68-year old creepy film "god" John Malkovich. EEEWWWW. There is an unofficial tag line: "Everybody is a Pervert." Newsflash: Only perverts believe this.

Woody Allen is not about to defend his next venture into Lolita-land but he did defend Harvey Weinstein, calling him a "sad, sick man." Good lord. Well okay then. That explains it.


Louis CK, however, is defending his movie, a defense that sounds very familiar. "I grew up with that. Manhattan is a movie I saw as a kid, and I was like, "Okay, that's what people do."  Really?  It is? People do this? What people? You mean people like you and Woody Allen? Manhattan was made nearly 30 years ago. Has Louis not changed his mind since he was a teenager? When will adolescent middle-aged men grow up? Oh. Never. Of course. Men like him and Woody and HW and on and on and on.

It's as though men over 45 read or reread Lolita and think: "Wow. I want to make that film! I want to undress a gorgeous teenager and pretend to have sex with her, or at least watch!"


Also, who are these movies for? Certainly not women. I'm sure Louis CK is hoping his huge fan base will come along for the ride. I got an email to that effect. You know, those casual emails he sends to his fans, like we're best friends. "Hey Rhonda, I've been SOOOO busy. I made this flick. I really want you to come see it. In fact, YOU can get a ticket early, like today, even though it opens in November. But you can claim your lucky seat now." AS IF and ----


(I wanted to make you feel like you are “going to the movies”.  I think you will really enjoy going to this movie)  How the hell does he know what I will like? 

This was the longest email I ever received from Louis. TWO pages. Me and millions of others, basically begging us to see this film. Weird.

Woody Allen did not send me an email.

I don't plan on seeing either film. As much as I love the cast, in both.

But for two incredibly privileged filmmakers that can do whatever they want, stop with the old man having sex with girls trope because it's not a real trope! But it is a real fantasy that nobody but the filmmakers and "people like them" want to indulge in.

This is why I wish I was a billionaire. In addition to basically doing good works everywhere, I could own a studio and produce films -----written, directed and acted in by women about matters that are interesting, reflect our actual lives and are relevant to our culture. Films that have an impact. Films that are enjoyable. Films that could even make a difference. MEN, you've had your chance. FOREVER. Step down. Pass the baton. You're going in circles. You're making me sick.


Rhonda Talbot weighing on in misogyny, films, predators, male fantasies, Woody Allen, Louis CK, and all that crap.




Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Women Have More Power Than They Know




Women in Film put out a statement today on the Weinstein catastrophe. As I was writing this I checked to see what the victim count was. Thus far over 25. From Rose McGowan to Asia Argento to Rosanna Arquette. << link My little rant here is on this statement. Lots of good ideas but how to implement?
While it's a very fine statement, exactly how do we get men, male colleagues, to become our allies and speak out when they witness any discrimination of any kind? This is certainly a wake-up call for many, but the town is run by men and until women make an incredibly bold move, not much will change. The men run the boardrooms, hold the keys, have all the money and power.

But there are a lot of extremely powerful women with deep pockets that could certainly create companies that promote strong female leadership. Women that would sit on the board. Women that would finance the movies and hold the similar keys.
In a patriarchal world that goes back to the beginning of time, time then is what it will take to keep pushing the boulder up the mountain. Except that's the wrong metaphor and needs to be changed. Sisyphus was never meant to succeed. Women are not under some ancient curse. They can pull that rock and foist it over the top; they can do it together and the men/allies that help will only benefit.
Am I, are we, reaching for the stars? Sometimes it seems that way. Speaking of stars:
What if female A-listers stopped starring in or producing tentpole movies, money that lines the pockets of various unsavory characters?
What is powerful female executives and financiers stepped back until there was some visible change?
I believe women have more power than they know. More than half the movie audience is female. Take women out of movies, and good luck with half an audience, a movie audience that is already rapidly shrinking.
According to Hollywood Reporter, these are the most powerful people 2017. A handful of women. But a good handful. So MEN on this list, are any ready to make changes? To be stand up guys? To think about the 52% of women that go to see your films?
The only thing this industry, like many industries, understands is money.
Mess with it, take it away, threaten the bottom line, and men will suddenly pay attention. Maybe then men will start speaking out, stepping up, and stopping any assaults they see, witness or hear about. Maybe then industry leaders will follow through on the mentioned excellent mandates.
I also don't believe these male colleagues have to have sisters or daughters in order to be motivated to to step up. Men don't need a daughter, sister, cousin, aunt to know what sexual assault is.
Harassment is never acceptable. Women have the right to a safe work environment. Let's hope this did begin to turn the tide. But certainly HE is not the only one. He may be the most vile. But it's the entire entertainment environment and it's sordid history of abuse that he has given a very public face to. A despicable human I can only compare to one other, the one the leads the nation.
Also why can't there be a YELP/Rate My-- for bosses and companies. There are in other industries. At the very least people would know some of what others carry around as secrets. Currency. This town uses secrets and gossip is bargaining power. Rather than on hidden boards inside Hollywood, put that business on a public forum. People might think twice before taking certain actions, knowing they may be outed.
**makes decent films. A bully. A predator. Stay away. Not worth it.

WIF statement:
Women In Film encourages women to continue speaking up about sexual harassment, which is an all-too-common form of discrimination. That so many people, particularly other men in power, knew about Harvey Weinstein’s behavior and didn’t say anything is an indication of how deeply entrenched discrimination is in the film & TV business — and in culture overall.
We are hearing more and more shocking accounts from women affected by Harvey Weinstein’s behavior; women emboldened to finally speak up because others have before them.  We will likely hear about other men in the entertainment industry who have harassed women, because the problem is far more widespread than people have been willing to discuss publicly.

In order to do something to end sexual harassment, we must require industry leaders to: (1) mandate gender inclusive boards and decision making groups (2) mandate inclusive hiring practices from the top down, from executives to support staff. Ensuring that there are more women in positions of power will change the culture and result in decreased sexual harassment and discrimination overall (3) mandate that lasting legal penalties be applied without compromise, bias or settlement, and these penalties be enforced for those found guilty and complicit in these crimes of discrimination. The bottom line is that no one should be held to different standards; regardless of their power, money or fame.
Women need allies. We need our male colleagues – who have mothers, sisters, daughters and friends – to step up and speak out now and whenever they are witness to discrimination of any kind.

Rhonda Talbot weighing in on Harvey Weinstein, Miramax, Hollywood, sexual assault, entertainment business, misogyny, discrimination, power, women.

Friday, June 30, 2017

Thing One and Thing Two - What She Knew





Look how innocent back in the day.  ^ ^ ^

Not that anyone asked, but when I had twin girls 14 years ago, while in the hospital, the incredibly kind night nurse that I wanted to take home with me forever, also made a prediction about the girls.

She had an uncanny ability to read a newborns face with astounding accuracy. This woman had super powers. The way she swaddled those screaming babies into a sleep, how she carried one in each arm, roaming up and down the hallway with such crazy confidence I never once asked where she was taking them.

In any case, she said this.

Nurse:  Good news and not so good news. Baby A will be a very easy child. Even a delight.  Baby B, well, she's got some attitude. She's got plenty of that attitude!

What the hell did that mean? Was this secret maternity ward fun? 6th floor shenanigans? Twin time lunch break games?  Then: Bye bye and good luck with that.





How could she have known that when they were twenty four hours old?

I'm not going to summarize 14 years, so:

Today --Baby A, out of school but fretting over homework due in 2 months, spends her time reading, writing and making short films. I'm posting this one because it so clearly identifies her situation in life and what's wrong with public schools. Oh wait. Did I write that? --She works her ass off, and does everyone else's job to ensure her perfect 4.0 life status and kind of doesn't mind. So she's building a youtube site to vent. (Apple doesn't fall etc.)

This here clue in:   Rome Alone


Baby B.  She's outside on the hammock doing that teen business on her phone chatting with the "squad" in a language I can't decipher because it's not language. It's words without vowels. She basically lives in her own fancy, butterfly- filled fantasy.  (Apple doesn't fall far from the tree etc.)




While A is studies, science exploration, action figures and hiking with like-minded friends, B is Sephora,  you tuber girls, Buffalo Exchange, styling outfits, going to all-boys "summer school" to study "Algebra". None of her T-shirts, for example, have a bottom half. What is that?  Anyway... she's super sweet. She's either saying SHUT UP or STOP TALKING...not sure.




I suppose this is an example of her art, which I fished out of the trash.


Someone told me I ought to try and market some of their pieces for, say, coffee mugs or something... right.. that's me. Oh, hey you --getting your $15 dollar cold brew, you market person hipster guy/girl, put this on a T-shirt for me.


So, there you go. Little slices of A and B.


Rhonda Talbot reporting in on twins, children, parenting, hahahahah, teenagers, art, public school, private school.

Thursday, June 29, 2017

Fire and Ice





Living in this little paradise could be an option. ^ ^ ^ ^


I've sadly neglected my blog, for apparently over a year, though it does not seem like a year. Mainly because years pass by like days. I've decided to see what's what.

I have a morning routine where I write in a journal, sometimes dozens of pages, most of it meaningless to anyone but me, but somehow that combined with writing for money that never arrives, I've left poor Trifecta in the dust.

Speaking of dust, I loathe the weather in SoCal. I woke up with grit in my throat. Embers from wildfires that are flaring up all around the city - five in total. The reason there are so many has to do with a deadly combination of California's wettest winter in more than a decade; and the intense summer heat, basically burning up what grew during the rain.



This is not too far away, Burbank. I walked out at 6am to get the Times, the sky was thick with yellow smoke. I've seen this many times, I've had to evacuated my home a few times, but somehow this year seems the worst. There is a correlation between the extreme heat rising in SoCal with my extreme dislike for living here. I'm not alone. My friends and I constantly discuss how we are all leaving, together even, to go find some piece of land, preferably near the water, maybe outside the US, but not too far from shopping outlets (heh...Jamie) A commune. With big trees, some deer. With a dozen or so English cottages, a community garden full of exotic lettuce, carrots, cucumbers, okay, a mixed salad, right in the center. Maybe a goat to milk and some chickens.




Just behind this lovely setting is the ocean, clean and breezy. Dolphins pass by, we all have wind chimes. Maybe that dog.

Until we all get there, I dream of ice caves.


This is Northern MI, not too far from where I grew up. Couldn't wait to get out. To come to California. At age 14, that seemed like a great plan. Now, I see this journey as two polar opposites, fire and ice.

Meanwhile, I'm running with what I got and fixing it along the way.

UPDATE:  OMG, so I found out this mind fantasy is a real place, called pocket neighborhoods. This particular place is in WA, not too far from Puget Sound where my mother is from and lived and I've probably seen, so this now makes sense. Crazy. Click on neighborhood link above. Now it's very real. It's on baby.

Rhonda Talbot weighing back in. On Fire, Heat, Ice, Paradise, Life, Ross Chapin