Friday, October 23, 2009
I have been under the sea with work, so haven't had much time to write, or do much else. Buying movies and meeting with producers and agents can be lot of fun, some of them are even decent people. But I have too many meetings scheduled sometimes and get mixed up. So I was in Mr. "I cheat on my wife but you'd never know it" today, though I was supposed to be in a meeting with an executive who wears high heels and hangs his hosiery on his baloney ledge. Nonetheless, the conversation could've been the same.
"We got big big big big movies, sure to win Oscars and make billions. Think Titanic meets Cloverfield!"
So, by the time I got home, OH, forgot to mention, someone rammed into my car, then took off, I was spent. Of course the Things don't know what kind of day I had because they are all about fun and joy and "oh mommy, I saw the prettiest hummingbird today outside, plus butterflies, snails and faeries! But the bird never flew away. Do you think there is something wrong with it? Please come look, please! It might be dead! Oh no!"
"Well it can't be dead if its humming. Say, why don't you draw me a picture of the bird while I return some calls."
And I handed her some post-its.
"Wow! Cool. Thanks, mom!"
You would have thought I gave her a pack of matches given her exuberance; she was practically exploding with excitement. And of course, that is precisely what I did.
She runs out of the room to show Thing Two; they are just beside themselves. Giddy, screaming.
Then I smell the sulfur. Once again, I took an action without wearing my glasses.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
At a five star hotel, there was a film shoot in progress. Sitting under an umbrella and wrapped lace, Alec Baldwin came over and asked if I would be in his shoot.
He was short one super model and I would be perfect. I glanced at the women standing on the beach in their string bikinis, all glammed up. I’m nobody so this couldn’t be a punked thing.
“You are gorgeous,” he says. Let’s move”
His eyes carried me to the sand where I stood along the line of 21-year old models, standing out like an infested oak tree. But hey, I'm the one on the right. A bad case of misperception.
Alec is shouting out of a large, white cone.
“When I say RUN, head toward the water. Okay. Action. And RUN!” We all took off; feet burning by the hot sand, yet the girls are running gracefully, like gazelles.
“Why are we going so fast?” Then I hear gun shots. “That’s why…” but they were now way ahead of me. I took a bullet in the back and fell flat on my face. This is me just before taking the bullet.
I hear: “Baby, let me adjust this again, make sure it’s tight. Now we twist is around…”
My husband’s voice. He runs a commentary on his every move. He was adjusting Thing One’s nit cap, during which he woke me up and burst my bubble. Yes, it was a dream, but godamn it I got out of the house!
“YOU popped my bubble! I’m trapped for life. Why do you have to talk all the time? I hate your voice! Just adjust it. Jesus!” I am now sobbing. Inconsolably.
“It was a perfect dream! I never have them. I only have nightmares. You are such an ass hole! No, you are the anti-christ!”
The husband whisks Thing One out of the room. I am hysterical.
“Anything is better than this!” I sobbed.
I never tell dreams in stories because I never read them. I skip over them and get to the point. Hence the opening.
I want to go back to Alec, to see the wound. He thought I was a supermodel! Who cares if I was killed?
I can't seem to stop my ranting. "I'd rather be dead with Alec Baldwin than alive with you!"
The night before we all tucked in, we did a nit treatment; all of our heads were covered in olive oil, caps and scarves. There was an outbreak at school. I never had nits or lice as a kid, or if I did, my mother ignored it. She probably figured they would die in the Michigan cold. Who knows?
Earlier that day, I had to make this call according to school rules.
“Hi parent mom whom I never talk to, but your daughter told E she has lice. You should know that.”
This mother is French. “Impossibeeel. There is way no.” This went on and on until she saw a bug in her kid’s hair.
“OH, this is catastrophic!” Here come the tears.
I have worked with the French over 15 years and everything is catastrophic. What I might consider a drag, to them it’s catastrophic. For example, “Well, they want more on the back-end on this movie.” “Oh, that is catastrophic!” Really? I grew to like the word and now use it regularly.
“There is jam on the table. That is catastrophic!” "Oh my god! There is a smudge on my new jeans! This is a catastrophy!"
Back to the French mom.
“Oui, oui,” I tell her. “Douse her hair in olive oil then go on line.” She kept talking as I hung up.
Still upset about not getting shot by Alec, I got out of bed and flung myself around the house. “This CANNOT be my life. This has to be the dream!!” I put on some Joe Henry and sashayed up and down the hall.
When did I turn into litttle Edith Bouvier? I do love her. We think a lot a like and oddly, my backyard, due to gardeners never showing and tree droppings every where, it has a concrete feel to it. I bet she had nits.
After exhausting myself twirling around, I went back to bed, hubby slept god knows where, maybe on the kitchen floor. Closing my eyes, I envision that hotel, the models, the blood, then wonder if nits are in fact catastrophic. The next morning this magazine was on the mail stand.
They have no idea what is coming.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
A wacky trip to the E.R., this time ME!
The only times I have been to the Emergency Room was with the girls if one of them spiked a fever around 105.
There were a few exceptions with my older son, but that's a different story and of course the few exceptions concerning me when I thought some hippy dugged me. This I will snapshot.
On a trip to Palm Springs with a BF when I was in my 20's, on our return, I thought this hippy-type guy who was stuck in the 60's, and worked at a 7-11 put purple haze in my coffee. Maybe because I was seeing more than mirages, like dinosaurs and giant moon pies. This terrified me into a state of such anxiety, thus thought I was tripping; and as it turns out it was a severe panic attack. But that was 20 years ago.
So, the other night, after 3 days of feeling so weak I could barely read the tabs, get out of bed and then thought my heart had stopped, not to mention my back had gone out, this a result of carrying twins to beyond term (but that’s a different story,) I thought I had better drive to the E.R.
How I got the energy to do this is beyond me, but hope was in sight, and that alone was enough.
When I pulled into the parking lot, in an attempt to straighten my car to keep it neatly between the white lines because I have a mild case of OCD no matter how sick I am, suddenly, an enormous gold Cadillac taps the front of my car. I really thought nothing of it, because I already knew I would have the scrape and this person would not. I have THAT kind of car. Honestly, a class of cola sitting on the fender would cause major damage.
Anyway, 4 seconds later, a rather large, okay, super-sized woman gets out of her car, replete in a moo-moo that's riding up to her ass and hair I can only describe as, “how could she leave the house like that!?" starts screaming at me about her back pain! Note here, she hit me, maybe going 1 mile an hour in basically a tank. But no matter, she was going to sue me, then she cursed me to hell!
I was so sick I really had no time for this person and wondered if she was just released from the psych ward.
“What the hell is wrong with you girl!? Now I’ve got the back pain! Do you know how much that shit costs?”
A seasoned driver, I knew even in a much worse “fender-bender” no one can feel any “pain” for at least two days. But, whatever. This lady had the sue-thing going on. Not uncommon in LA.
“Jesus loves me! Not the likes of you!” she went on. Jesus? What does he have to do with this?
She quickly jotted down my license plate and kept on ranting Corinthians from what I am presuming the Bible. Here, I couldn’t tell you if it was the Old or New version, having never read either. Meanwhile, I’m ready to vomit and coupled with my own back pain, I may have said, “ Go fuck yourself and your Jesus.” I have nothing against Jesus,from everything I’ve read, he seemed like a pretty interesting guy; a cute carpenter, anarchist who stood up for prostitutes and fought the corrupt political system. What’s not to love? Now that's a last supper I would enjoy.
As I was limping away, a skinny, old man approached her, (husband?) He inspected her car like a germaphobe mother might inspect her kid's head for lice. He saw there was no damage, yet there was a scrape on my car.
“Do what you need to do.” He tells her. WTF?
“And you didn’t even say you was sorry!” She was still ranting. Honestly, these hypocritical Jesus people.
“Jesus died for your sins! Not mine!” she continued. The man was escorting her back to her car. Now she is limping like I struck her with a steel bat. I don’t mean to be mean, but she was so big, in that 250 to 300 pound way where it’s hard to tell where she might be hiding that back. And with all the cushion! Please.
On top of why I came here in the first place, I am now reasonably upset as I don’t like being bullied, no matter the circumstances. Plus how does she know Jesus doesn’t love me. Fuck her.
The waiting room. Of course it’s packed. There is a man in front of me, his arm dripping blood like a bad B movie. Next to him is his wife claiming to sue the hospital if they don’t see him right now. She was screaming and ranting also.
“If he bleeds to death on your floor, you know you’ll be looking at a hefty lawsuit. I will shut this place down so fast your heads will spin!” What was with all the people? Again, it is Los Angeles.
Years ago, a young boy, say, 8, ran across my street and was hit by a brand new Mercedes. Then suddenly, his parents seem to appear out of nowhere screaming lawsuits! He could have been killed. So, were they waiting for an expensive care to drive by before pushing him in the street? I took him into my house, a couple of bruises, then glared at his parents. “This is not 911. It’s a cold pack." The poor, oldish women in the Mercedes (who was going under the speed limit) was torn apart. But I digress.
I felt bad for the man as the cut was actually pretty minor. But felt worse for his young son, witnessing all of this and his nutty mother. His father kept leaning over and kissing him on the forehead.
“You don’t seem to understand! We have in-sur-ance!” and good kind too. Medicare!”
They took me right away and I was whisked off into a quiet, lovely room by the most kind nurse I had seen since the birth of the twins.
I tell her all my ailments; the list seemed endless. Yet somehow the conversation shifted to poker!
“Where do you play?” I just couldn’t resist.
Well, that is all it took. After hearing that this poor woman lost 300 dollars with 3 aces got me pretty upset; so I gave her some solid poker tips since I have been playing the game more than 20 years; and as mentioned, it paid my way though college.
Her assistant nurse enters, apparently also an avid player, and was instructed by her boss to take notes, which she did.
Finally the doctor comes in. Young, cute, frankly datable. We talk, he’s kind and gentle and then shoots me up with antibiotics and a shot for my back. It reduced the pain and I felt better. Then I hear:
“Where’s my hundred dollar bill!”
I snuck a peek as he was just outside my room.
A rather pathetic looking guy, filthy, matted hair, lying on a gurney, slurring nonsense about this hundred dollar bill, despite being told countless times he never had one.
His nurse: “Now remember, when you drink, stay home and don’t go out driving. Just drink and, say watch House or Family Guy."
Shortly thereafter I hear “Georgie? Is that you? Georgie?” This from some old man on a gurney a few feet from the drunk, clearly ready to drop dead.
COLD BLUE CODE BLUE. Lots of commotion out there. So was he already seeing Georgie before he died?
“Is it always like this, doctor?” If I wasn't married I would have slipped him my number. Not that it didn't cross my mind anyway.
The cute doctor gave me some Motrin and told me if I don’t feel better and say, start peeing blood, come straight back. Well, okay. If I ever pee blood, which will be never, this is not where I will return.
Finally back at my car, just before settling into my seat, I see a note on the windshield. Now, a couple things. It’s barely legible and written on a rose patterned piece of stationary one might find in a Motel 6. (Do they still exist?) On it, was the face of Jesus as a kind of back drop.
I throw it in the driver’s seat and when stopping for gas, I read the damn thing.
“Girl. Jesus loves you!!!! Sorry for earlier comment. He is not out to get you.” Huh, who said he was? It goes on. "The Lordeth is always hereth. He saved meeth." Then, something about born-agains. It was a long note, one I wasn’t interested in finishing, but did notice, it was dated 10/8/08. Now, the date is 9/20/09! Does she just carry these around and hand them out willy-nilly without changing the date?
I finally got home and tell my husband the whole kerfuffle. “I feel a story coming on… but I’m glad you’re okay.”
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Here is a quick snapshot of girls growing up in LA. Notice the difference in 1.5 years. Because this world/county/LA is lousy with seductive images everywhere you turn.... do I lock them up now?
Seems like yesterday:
Here we are today
So what is a mother to do? New Zealand? The good news in this is they have a father that is so hands on, I'm surprised he doesn't still use the dog chains. (yes, we did, once at Disneyland, but, we also didn't lose them, so eff off)
Like any reasonable mother I went out and got some Restalyne. Here is another before and after.
Prior to my going in, I thought, well, everyone says it gives you a nice plumpy look. As a sidenote: everytime my kids see a picture of her on a magazine, they always say "mom! you're in a magazine!" How can you not love them?
So I get the Restalyne, but this crook kept telling me I needed more, a little more...I left in tears and here is why
This crazy doctor insisted I need this stuff in my cheeks, lips, eyes, neck, armpits and ass. I wore a mask for a few weeks, after threatening to sue her. She reimbursed me and in fact gave me extra so I wouldn't call the BBB. Though I was actually ready to call an attorney.
Leave your face alone! And while you are at it, build an attic for your daughters; but keep cutting their hair to leave no room for error.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
“Children keep you young” is quite possibly the biggest lie told to parents in the history of parenthood. Right up there with thinking using leather belts will somehow discipline them in a good way!
First, the facts. Carrying a child, sucks out all of your nutrients, leeches your gums, ruins your breasts, mottles your once lovely skin tone and adds a layer of fat to your stomach that simply will never go away unless, of course, you go the surgical route.
On a mental health level, there is the constant moment to moment worry regarding their well-being, speed drives to the hospital, sleep deprivation, hair-pulling over the smallest of incident, “She seems so quite today. There must be something wrong!”, or “why is she crying so much, she never cries! It must be a rare disease!" Then, all the restraint one must muster as to not lose every friend they have by screaming continuous anxiety and stress … stress which in fact ages every part of you.
Was this ridiculous quote for the parents that thought, oh say a whoopee cushion; what a blast! or I get to go to Disneyland again, YAY or, another opportunity to visit the Ecoli infested Water Park, or perhaps the constant trips to the smelly beach where I can’t wear my bathing suit, carry 4 bags of kid stuff (sun screen, shovel, extra clothes, barbies, etc.) Can someone tell me where the fun is in that??
I hated all of those place as a childless person. And as time goes on, there is the homework you end up doing so your child stands a chance to get into a better school, so then you have to endure elementary school all over again. What a fucking blast. Then the god-awful helicopter school parents you are forced to interact with.
For example, Dina, “So far I have wracked up 25 hours in community service, serve hot lunches and have recently become a room parent! Plus I am on the volunteer committee to collect “donations”. I knew there was a reason I hated her.
“How are you participating?” she inquires.
“I drop them off.”
The parents at school have never liked me, which is fine. It’s a forced situation, people I would not deal with in the real world. But then this: “You do realize these people become your social life.”
I really thought this woman was insane. Sadly so. I had plenty of friends, by my choice. Then:
“Yunno, all I ever wanted in this life is this, my kids in a great school and a new Volvo,” she adds whistfully.
I never spoke to her again. In fact I was aging by the minute just standing next to her.
Interestingly according to a study done by the BBC:
Regular sex "can take years off your looks," this coming from a scientist. This made some sense to me.
“Couples who have sex at least three times a week look more than 10 years younger than the average adult who makes love twice a week,” claims consultant neuro-psychologist Dr David Weeks, who has made a 10-year study of the subject. But then he blew it.
Hi article showed this picture of Goldie Hawn! WTF? How many facelifts has she had? Daily trainers, chefs, nannies, etc. It’s absurd. I personally love her, but come on! There were other wealthy celebrities as well on his page, but you get the idea.
Further Dr. Weeks, said twice a week!! Clearly Dr. Weeks, you have no children.
"Pleasure derived from sex is a crucial factor in preserving youth. It makes us happy and produces chemicals telling us so," he goes on.
Does Goldie Hawn prove his theory? What does he know what she does with her husband? Most likely she spends more time with her surgeon, and again, I love her.
Dr. Weeks said these sex-happy couples make more of an effort to keep themselves in good shape for their partners and will also benefit from the physical and emotional effects of sexual intercourse.
Again, hilarity ensues.They may be sex-happy, but what I have noticed, most married couples, after a few years and a couple kids later, that concept is no longer a priority. So, most couples learn to accept the beer belly, the lack of teeth whitening, the once regular exercise routine, the monthly facials, the waxing. For some of us gals, we had to cut back on spa visitations all together. The recession has made this even worse; for my part, because I don’t cook, I order in. So my kids get pasta. A lot of it. So I can keep myself, well, myself. I do have my priorities.
"There are physiological factors too," continues Dr. Weeks.
"Sex is the most intense kind of pleasure and that triggers certain chemicals. In women it produces a human growth hormone which helps the process." I loved this comment. Send over that guy from Twilight and we’re all set.
“Regular, loving sex came second to physical and mental activity as the factors most important to retaining youth.”
This guy Weeks was really starting to piss me off. I had this feeling he wasn’t getting any! In fact, most likely sitting in his small, stuffy, lab all day, I imagined him, pasty white, chubby, bald and not someone I would take “down town.”
Yet he goes on:
“The research discovered that people can benefit from being with younger partners.” I also like this. Again, send over the vampire.
The study also concluded that people who look younger are more altruistic, confident and have more intellectual activity.
Okay, I am extremely altruistic and would be more so if it weren’t for the damn kids taking up all my time. I have a shit load of confidence, (have no idea why really) and my brain is wired as such that if I don’t use my brain, I will put a bullet in it.
Who is this guy?!
He adds this asinine tidbit, “The biggest factors contributing to ageing were found to be smoking, exposure to the sun and stress.”
Now how very enlightening. Who the hell doesn’t already know that!? So regular sex keeps you young, and even younger if your partner is younger than you and HOT, but with kids, that ain’t going happen. Who doesn’t already know about sun exposure and again, the stress! I meditate and still have it! Only followed by doing work you love and socializing. Oh sure, right on it. I do most of my work behind locked doors while the kids pound away. And regarding the socializing, that would be called the “Saturday date night” which, in my circle, almost always never happens. Thank god for my fabulous cluster of female pals.
For a woman to feel sexy she has to know she looks HOT. Otherwise, all bets off. Not to mention, most moms I now would rather go to bed and sleep.
So, I really wish people, and by that I mean, PARENTS, because they know it’s true and need to lie, would stop saying, “Aren’t kids wonderful? They keep you so young.”
I typically respond, “Why, are you having a lot of sex? An affair perhaps? Chugging the HGH?” When a newish mom makes this comment, and she still looks pretty good, I try not to roll my eyes; but instead nod politely, “Oh yes, they have taken years off. I’m actually 112.It’s magical.”
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
I hear crickets chirping, leapt up from my computer and sprinted around the house looking for the pesky noisemaker, finally finding the source coming from the dirty clothes hamper.
“Hello! I mean, this is Rhonda.” That is one of the problems when you work from home in your pajamas. The professional voice is a balancing act and often one forgotten.
“Who is this?” This was a very angry voice. At first I was relieved because it wasn’t a bill collector.
“Uh, Rhonda. Who’s this?”
“Well Rhoda, if you don’t stop texting me, I’m going come over to kick yo ass from here to kingdom come!”
She signed off. Kingdom come? Where the hell is that anyway? If it’s by the beach, then maybe this is a weird sign I’m finally getting that lovely ocean shack.
Then I thought maybe this was a mistake, this person had clearly dialed the wrong number.
One hour later, I hear the chirping again. I frantically run around and find my phone in the tampon drawer.
“Hello… I mean, this is Rhonda.”
‘Okay, lady, I gotta another text! This one reads: “I love you daddy! Now who the fuck is this? Are you talking ‘bout my man bitch! Plus, you keep interrupting my dinner."
“I’ll say. How about I come over there and shove your head up yo ass and we call that a mistake!”
“Actually I’d rather go to kingdom come.”
“Stop texting me!”
The irritated woman continued. I have to say she was really over reacting. So she got a couple texts. It’s not like they said, “Hey, you big fat ho, your man has syphilis and sleeps with every hobag in L.A.!”
She sighs, now it says, “daddy we love you more than mom.”
"Oh. Look. I am so sorry. I just realized what’s going on here. I have kids, and they sometimes grab my phone when I’m not looking and text their father, but really they are texting the last number I used.”
“I gotcha… it’s the kids. Well that would explain why there are no spaces between the words. Plus my kids don’t have a dad, so you can see why I might get a little pissed. I thought some slut was coming after MY daddy.”
“Oh, no no no, I am not that person. I would never do that. I mean I did it once, but that was a long time ago. Anyway, I promise to take you number off right now.”
“Please do! Immediately. This is driving me crazy, girl! Who are you tyring to call anyway?”
I am no techie, so trying to change my friend’s number, I kept calling Mary Ann!
“Girl, you do have some serious problems."
"Mary, you don't know the half of it."
"Get your kids to fix it. My son fixes my computer all the time." Suddenly I wanted to invite Mary over for a coffee.
Finally I erased the whole thing and started over.
As my girls get taller I have to keep putting things on higher shelves. I think I have some kitchen knives on the roof. Now, I’m slightly terrified to look at my cel phone bill this month. They love coming into my office and drawing hearts and flowers on my work documents, letters, bills.
"But we want to be just like you mom. Sit in p.j.'s all day and play on your computer." Here, I stifle some tears. Kids just love their parents no matter what. Until they don't. Later.
I tried to lock my door but there’s the consistent, maddening pounding and my guilt; "This is obvious rejection they will take into their adult life and will never be happy and seek out rejection all because of you!”
I keep my phone hidden behind my doll I made for them which they hate, so I know it’s safe. For now.